Five unpopular things I believe

I found a bit of time lately (and no bullshit excuses) to sit down and write a couple of words. So here are, in no particular order, five unpopular things I believe ("unpopular" can be replaced with "controversial" to a certain degree, and describes my personal experience in various conversations so far).

The world is never black or white, but shades of grey. Take any thing deemed to be true far enough, and you will reach its limits (e.g.: the laws of physics break inside highly-dense neutron stars, quantum mechanics and general relativity do not mix well, etc.). It is a consequence of our collective knowledge (namely, that it is limited). But if you add a well-defined context to any situation, you will lean towards one end of the spectrum with such a degree of confidence, that any errors become negligible (e.g.: planet Earth exhibits different conditions of volume and density than a neutron star, so much so that gravity can be accurately measured and matter exists in forms that are known to us). This duality (nothing is ever certain, but everything can become almost certain under various conditions) must be held in one's head as a guide for accurately describing and navigating the world. How we get closer to either black or white should always be based on good explanations (that are hard-to-vary, falsifiable, reproducible, and rooted in data) and a well-defined context.

Reality is the best feedback mechanism there is. Regardless of the decisions that you make, reality will always, in time, provide you with a follow-up. And it is the only reliable measure for how right or wrong you were.

Love is never enough for a relationship to survive. The longevity of a relationship is a direct consequence of a property of systems called antifragility (the capacity to thrive despite adversity). Love is necessary, but not enough for that to happen. It must be doubled by trust, mutual respect, lots of communication and transparency, empathy, and mutual support.

The right way to pick a life partner is not to choose the person with whom you have the most in common (similarities are marginally helpful in the long run). But to choose the person whose defects you feel ok tolerating for the rest of your life.

Schools are nurseries benefiting busy parents, not children. I'm not saying there are a lot of alternatives here. And those that exist, might not be suitable for everyone (e.g.: homeschooling), nor they are not devoid of issues. But I'm pointing what to me, is the obvious here. Schools are institutions of complacency, promoting peer acceptance at the cost of suppressing individual identity. There is no focus on collaboration, nor critical thinking. There is no rejoicing in thoughtful debates and no degrees of wrong. They only act as institutions that take "care" of children, by forcing them towards consensus and obedience, until parents finish work and can safely pick them up.